Detachment does it work?
Detachment is a funny one; feeling all the emotion but not basing
a decision on emotion. Detachment or the idea of detachment has been around for
years. Does that mean that the concern and the "I Care!" factor does not kick in?
Well, I would say no. Not really. You could walk into a room and
be detached to all the underlying currents that are flowing through. It does
not mean you are not aware of the environment around you, but on the
contrary you soak in all the under currents but can look beyond them
Well I like to define it as an out of body experience where you
can feel, be moved, empathise; get involved but not react emotionally. It's a
great philosophy to follow and it keeps you sane. The world around us changes every moment of everyday; as people(we are human beings) we have so much hitting
us every day and the sense of inner peace and being calm gets lost in
translation.
The action of being detached gives a sense of satisfaction and
makes you think beyond. Isn't that just great!! The revelation makes me smile constantly. At work there were comments "oh! You must have had a
great weekend!!!"
So let's have some fun with being detached. Walk into a room/
board a train/ walk down the street/ order a meal/ walk into work and repeat to
yourself " I am detached; I can feel will act and not react to the
situation".
Have fun with this one people!!!!!!!
Let's have some comments...
Hmmmmmm....if one were to follow your advice, then it would not read very well...just sitting here, being involved with what is being written; yet not getting involved in the situation ;)
ReplyDeleteBut a comment needs involvement. As such Detachment is useful in being able to clearly assess a situation objectively, without getting your interpretation leading you into jumping to conclusions. With detachment you can be patient to see all the facts and then like (say) Sherlock Holmes you can get to the bottom of it all...
...but that is good for seeking evidence and finding solutions. What of building rapport what of combining detachment in the way (say) the Dalai Lama does...detached not for a purpose, but for the ability to enjoy life more. To stop getting caught up in the crap...to keep a warm heartedness to matter what is going on around you. To stay "up" when all around you is going "down".
Then "I care" remains as you keep your composure, your warmth, your compassion...but you do not loose yourself to caring. Unlike Sherlock where results matter and compassion is a weakness to him...he is detached into cold isolation. Jean Luc Picard vs Data, for all you trekies out there :)
Hi Amit,
DeleteThe light you have thrown on the article is great. I like the thinking behind this. I statement "do not loose yourself to caring", makes sense.
Manj